•March 6, 2017 • Leave a Comment

A dear friend and relation of mine passed away this morning.  She was only 68 years old.  I remember when I first met Phyllis, she ran a Bed & Breakfast in Connemarra, a beautiful part of the west of Ireland in Co. Galway.   When I first arrived in Connemarra for a summer job I felt I was literally on the edge of Ireland.  The sheep filled fields were surrounded by stone walls and it felt like the long winding road that touched the horizon up ahead was never going to end.  Phyllis was a warm, friendly lady who loved meeting new people.  She had the perfect job for her personality.  I remember her gorgeous hot home made vegtable soup being so warm and comforting, such a treat to eat after coming in from the rain and into her cottage on the edge of Ireland.   Spending many hours of time with Phyllis and her mother, felt like I was only with them for half an hour.  Time went that fast as she talked about her childhood growing up in such an interesting way, that I will never forget.  Phyllis it was a pleasure to meet you all those years ago and I feel privileged to have known you.  On the day I left Connemarra as the autumn commenced, my party stopped off for a picnic on a stunning beach called Ballyconneely.   The sun was bright in the sky and there was a gentle breeze as we poured tea from the flask that was my last day in Connemarra.   I would love to return to that part of Ireland some day and walk on this beach again and if I do I will reflect on those many moments I shared with you Phyllis, may you rest in peace  x x x


Bowling is just like parenting!

•March 5, 2017 • Leave a Comment

I recently went bowling with friends.  It has been years since I was bowling so I was very much out of practice.   When I got into the swing of things I had a thought how bowling is very much like parenting, our aim is to hit a perfect full strike but it is not as easy as it looks.  First you need to decide whether to throw your ball at high speed force or gently, so the ball can roll freely and smoothly without going off track.  Then, as we discovered that night, some of us threw at high speed force and the ball bounced and slid off track, they were too aggressive and pushy, but we never gave up as we got a  2nd shot to throw it again.  As time went on, we learned to keep the ball close and gently throw it towards the skittles.  Other bowlers came right in to give us guidance and support and we listened as we really wanted a full, perfect strike.  Using all our capacity, logic, thought and our inexperience, we aimed and began to realise our capacity to throw, at what speed and with what weight.  Some people can throw a 12kg ball, others are more able for a 8kg and others in between.  It is different for everyone and some of us slipped along the way but overall, our intention was to get a full strike.  So parenting is like that, trying so hard to keep our little ones on track, they will go off track but with patience, understanding your own capacity on what you can hold, and sheer determination, you can continue to aim to take your child to the next level of their life and know you’ve done the best possible job even though your hand and heart has ached from trying.

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•November 30, 2005 • 6 Comments

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